b:includable "LOVE" | Creme de la Chic: "LOVE"
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- a random shot taken @2:30 pm EST in Chelsea on Saturday, February 11, 2017 -

"Why do I fall in love with every woman I see who shows me the least bit of attention?"
- Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind

After reading an Atlantic article titled " There's No Such Thing as Everlasting Love", love lingered more poignantly and resonated with my subconscious melancholic perceptions on the overhyped and over-romanticized notions of love. One memory stuck out to me after reading this: the first time I watched a Charlie Kaufman movie. Charlie Kaufman is my love mentor. Anomalisa, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind...After watching Eternal Sunshine, I fell in love. Ironic, isn't it? It's not exactly a "love story" by any means. No, it's not your typical Nicholas Sparks, tear-jerking movie that promises a love-letter filled life of long-lost lovers reciting their unrequited love.

My perception on how most view and define love as is accurately represented by this golden post I found on Tumblr:

who wants to be my valentine?
The real question is who wants to be part of this capitalistic holiday that skewed the actual meaning and significance of love and turned it to a day of spending money on short lived indulgences and false representation of the meaning of love?

Yes, we all have moments when we feel like Tom from 500 Days of Summer, bursting a nerve and ranting about the capitalistic manipulation and demonization of a superfluous holiday consisting of either A.) being hopelessly immersed in a haze of romantic love with bouquets of cliche red roses and $2 cardboard heart boxes of cheap chocolates or B.) curling up in fetal position wrapped snuggly in a fleece blanket watching Lifetime Rom-Com's and insisting that you "Love yourself". But what about those of us who aren't comfortably placed in either scenarios?

A compilation of what I find society views "love" as. A polarization of impossible romance fantasized by overrated and overdone interpretations that all too commonly result in regretful resentment and revulsion. Symptoms can entail feeling guilt and embarrassment for showing any slight hint of emotion as a sign of weakness.


My personal evolving definition of love. Disclaimer: my sardonic sense of humor is sprinkled in here, hence the Femme Fatale in mustard and the seemingly cynical incorporation of the infamous 500 Days of Summer quote and deceiving letter from Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind. 

There's something subtly innocent and lovely about the Eternal Sunshine quote. It's beautifully honest. Love in Western society can be sugar-coated to become so saccharine that it leaves us feeling bitter. We somehow end up craving a burst of refreshing acid to cut through the rich and heavy conceptions on what love we should strive for. If that goal of finding an S.O. is unmet, we are left feeling the cold remnants of failure and unspoken loneliness. But it doesn't have to be that way. Why must we instantly apologize and catch our tongues when expressing love in nontraditional ways? That fear of being misunderstood engulfs us and leaves us to feel as if we are drowning in our naivety or some genetic mutation of love when in fact it's not.

When you think of love, what do you think?

You may catch yourself blushing over a nameless stranger on the A train who offers a kind-hearted glance. Or feel an indescribable connection with the barista at that Lower Eastside coffee shop you go to after briefly speaking about the current cafe playlist. Those little moments are moments of love. Those little moments of connection that increase the more we open our hearts and minds slowly but surely diminish those tantamount moments of loneliness and sadness we feel. Maybe if we adopt an evolved conception on "love", there will be more love in this world. So with Valentine's Day right around the corner, knocking on our door, let's embrace the strangeness of what that love can offer. Protect your heart but don't let it barricade you in from experiencing the beauty that the world outside of your comfort zone can offer.

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